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'The Modern Jewish Girl's Guide to Guilt'

<b>Web Extra:</b> Editor Ruth Ellenson Reads Her Introduction to 'The Modern Jewish Girl's Guide to Guilt'

Got Guilt? Ruth Ellenson does -- she's the editor of The Modern Jewish Girl's Guide to Guilt, a collection of essays by Jewish women writers about everything from pedicures on Yom Kippur (Oy!) to divorcing Mr. Jewish Right.

Ellenson is the daughter of a rabbi and a Christian convert to Judaism. Ironically, the idea for the book on Jewish guilt came to Ellenson in the middle of a Christian Methodist service, where her maternal grandmother was singing in the choir.

"The delight I saw sitting in her presence was mitigated by the fact that I was sitting in front of a large crucifix," Ellenson writes. "Those divided loyalties define who I am, and how I approach my religious identity, which I imagine they do for many modern people."

The book's essays tackle subjects as diverse as feminist mothers urging their daughters to have babies and the clash of ideologies in Buddhist-Jewish couples.

And then there's the subject of Israel -- "If you're going to write about guilt, Israel was an important one," says Ellenson. At some book readings, Ellenson says, angry audience members have told Ellenson how much damage she's done to the global Jewish community.

At the center of the book is the battle between obligation to one's community, with its dictates and traditions, and the obligation to one's individual interests and needs. It's that tension that produces guilt.

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Karen Grigsby Bates is the Senior Correspondent for Code Switch, a podcast that reports on race and ethnicity. A veteran NPR reporter, Bates covered race for the network for several years before becoming a founding member of the Code Switch team. She is especially interested in stories about the hidden history of race in America—and in the intersection of race and culture. She oversees much of Code Switch's coverage of books by and about people of color, as well as issues of race in the publishing industry. Bates is the co-author of a best-selling etiquette book (Basic Black: Home Training for Modern Times) and two mystery novels; she is also a contributor to several anthologies of essays. She lives in Los Angeles and reports from NPR West.